#153 Reclaim Your Life After Trauma with Eleonore Stephan

In this deeply moving episode of the Healing Through Love Podcast, host Sharlene Lynch sits down with Eleonore Stephan, an expert in metaphysical healing and subconscious reprogramming, to discuss how to reclaim your best life after trauma, anxiety, or abuse.

Eleonore dives into how undiagnosed PTSD and childhood trauma often shape our adult relationships, emotional states, and self-worth. With over 30 years of experience in both clinical and spiritual healing, she explains how subconscious triggers hold the key to unlocking our emotional freedom.

From holistic therapies like Reiki and Quantum Touch to clinical hypnotherapy and NLP, Eleonore’s tools are as transformative as her story. She shares actionable insights that will help you identify hidden wounds, break free from fear and shame, and reconnect with joy and purpose.

🎁 Plus: A powerful conversation about healing the root to change the result.

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Voiceover | 00:02
Welcome to another episode of Healing Through Love. Each week, we share ideas, experiences and resources to increase the awareness of domestic and family violence and to empower survivors to grow and thrive. We talk with experts who share their advice. Or with people who have experienced abuse, no matter where they are on their journey. This is all about healing through love. And now, here are your hosts. Sharlene Lynch and Rose Davidson. 

 Sharlene | 00:42
Welcome to the Healing Through Love podcast. I'm Sharlene Lynch and together we're shining a light on hope, resilience and transformation in the journey to end domestic violence. Each week we bring you inspiring interviews with change makers, survivors, advocates and experts who are making a difference in the lives of those affected by domestic and family violence. Whether you are on a healing journey or supporting someone who is, this is your space, our powerful stories shared with you and practical tools and heartfelt inspiration. Together we can heal at the speed of love. I've got a very special guest with us today. 

Eleanor Stephan has a unique set of skills to assist people who want to achieve the best in their life. She consults on metaphysics, holistic practices, and she's I've been doing this since 1990s. I know she's looks, she's actually younger than she looks, or the other way around, I should say. She's actually been at this a really long time, but she still looks like a spring chicken. And she is a certified Reiki master. Data and quantum touch healing. She is exploring the metaphysical world like she's diving deep, and she's got back and she's backing this with science. It's fantastic. She's got an advanced diploma in clinical hypnotherapy, psychotherapy, NLP. 

 Look, the list just goes on. But Eleonora's main focus is being to assist clients to overcome anxiety, trauma, abuse, and release guilt and shame and eliminate fears and phobias and help them just step into what's possible for their life. Welcome to the stage. It's so great to have you here, Eleonora. How are is. 

 Eleonore | 02:26
You? Good. Thanks, Sharlene. Thanks for catching up. It's great to see you again.

 Sharlene | 02:31
It's great to have these beautiful conversations. Look, But everyone's listening. And if they're not sort of familiar with all of these different modalities that you use... It's great for people to have a little bit of a time bit of a better understanding so from my perspective everything that we listed there even for the ones that are you know could be delivered in person because their physical touch like quantum healing is that all of these are energetic healings and can be done online is that true. 

 Eleonore | 03:02
Absolutely. Yes, I do. And even with quantum touch, because I've done some advanced levels of quantum touch, we can do that distance-by-distance healing as well, which is absolutely fantastic. Yep. 

 Sharlene | 03:14
I love it. And so for me, it was COVID that showed us as therapists that we could transition because we had to from an in-person space to an online space. And we and you know, we always knew that. Energy is energy. It doesn't matter in what form it comes. And it wasn't until push came to shove, and we were put in a position that we, you know what, kinesiology, can you actually do that online? 

 Well, yes, you actually can. So there are some good things that have come from that space in our time. I love that you concentrate on people with anxiety and trauma and this scarred tissue that we carry. And our listeners, mostly survivors of family and or domestic violence or are people who are practitioners themselves. Look, trauma's a thing across the board. I feel that all of us, even if it's birth trauma, we still have trauma. So can you talk to me a little bit more about trauma and let's just see if we can normalize this a little. 

 Eleonore | 04:14
Well, trauma is more than just, you know, that physical, you know, war veteran stuff and domestic violence. If there's any sort of yelling, abuse, alcoholism in the household when you're a child, that's a form of PTSD and trauma. And kids carry that through and those patterns are set. When children are very young. So it's not just that physical. Trauma that women in particular, but all people carry. It really is what happened in their formative years, what happened at school, and even in the workplace. So trauma is manifest as all of that anxiety, stress, depression, all of those sorts of things. But it's just, you know, those underlying causes often just get hidden over time, you know, and they say, I've escaped my childhood. But you actually, the fingerprints of the child. Come with you through your adult So those unresolved traumas just keep playing over and over in dysfunctional relationships or jobs or power between individuals. It doesn't go away. Wow. 

 Sharlene | 05:26
I love it. So For us, for people that feel that they've sort of already got these things sorted and we're moving forward and life is okay, How can these things So let's talk about trauma as opposed to anxiety. How can these things show themselves? How would they express? If we think we've sort of got things sorted and we're like, no, I don't know. I didn't really have a lot of trauma in my life. How can these things manifest? How can they show up? 

 Eleonore | 05:55
So many different ways. I'll give you an example of how some parents, and I don't do a lot of work with parents, but with children, because it's usually the parents that need therapy, but I remember talking to a woman who's 11, 12 year old was, had said to her, I'm really worried about my auntie, her sister, who was in hospital cancer, you know, it was pretty serious. And this woman said to her 12-year-old daughter, it's not your job to worry, it's my job to worry. You just go to school, get your 12 grades, whatever, and I'll take care of that. So, you know, the child had to throttle off. And I said to her, what you've effectively done is disempowered the child told the child that her feelings are irrelevant, that she's hopeless, helpless, powerless to do anything to help her auntie and to deal with that. I said, A better response is to say something like, yeah, I know, yeah, we're all. Concerned about auntie and I said you could have said something like but we're going to water a dog we're going to make her some food you know free some food we're going to you know and depending on the age of the child they've made her a heart there's so many ways that you can empower children when they are in difficult and tough situations so that they are empowered but if we say no I'll take care of that so you can over protect as well as under protect. And even with all of the abuse and trauma and violence that can be around children, neglect happens. Putting a child alone by itself is even a really tough and difficult thing. Abandonment, all of those, when you have both parents say working and they're too busy to interact, that's a form of trauma and abuse as well. So it's very subtle. And we grew up saying my parents loved me, they worked hard, they did everything for me, but they've got these underlying patterns of I'm alone. And I'm alone. And I'm alone. And I'm alone. And I'm alone. I'm helpless, I'm hopeless. So, yeah, so it's really interesting. So every person's story is unique and I take the time to find out all of their personal history. So I have a program, a six-hour program that I do to release You know, anxiety, stress, trauma, and there is always tragedy and trauma. And even if it's just about, you know, something like, you know, family members dying, you know, and they're not getting the support or help that they need, they leave an imprint on the psyche. So I actually started off years ago, teaching exploring the metaphysical world. So you know, and I did all of the Reiki, the auras, crystals, all of that sort of training. And it's great. And, you know, I'd certainly encourage people to do those sorts of things. They're very beneficial, they're, you know, help with healing. But what I found is that people were feeling better. Long term their psyche wasn't changing so what I found over time is that you actually need to change the unconscious so another thing that children actually happens with children is parents will say to them after something horrible has happened or they've had a bad day or they've been bullied that's a Go to bed, go to sleep, you'll be fine in the morning. You'll feel better in the morning. And the reality is in the morning, yes, you do get up and you do feel better. And you sort of get on with life. But the reality is the issue of, say, bullying for children was never resolved because it wasn't resolved physically or mentally in the conscious mind. It just gets slipped into the unconscious mind as an unresolved issue of bullying and intimidation. So what then happens as you grow through life, that sense of bullying and intimidation, even if you don't recognize it just happens in your life. Whatever you don't resolve at an energetic level. Plays out for you in your life. Around you. So you'll have a boss or something around you or a partner that's just bullying and intimidating and overwhelming. And that so what I learned on Great. Early on was you need to address the unconscious patterns to actually facilitate the ongoing permanent change, permanent healing. It's just beautiful. I have my clients, they drag themselves in, then they float out and their lives are just completely changed. So I absolutely love it. 

 Sharlene | 10:30
There's so much to unpack in your response. 

 Eleonore | 10:35
No. 

 Sharlene | 10:35
That's okay. I don't apologize. But let's just start with one area. So what I heard in between what you were saying there is that if you've got physical manifestations, if you've got physical things going wrong, and perhaps maybe you've seen a doctor and they're like, they give you some pills. It might, that might not be the reason why you're having these physical challenges. It could quite well be unresolved trauma from your youth. So that's what I got out of what you just said. 

 Eleonore | 11:04
Absolutely. Absolutely. 

 Sharlene | 11:05
You're listening to us today and you've got things like you're not sleeping well, you're losing hair, you've got oedema, swelling in the body. If you've got, I love what you just said then, if you've got. Repeating patterns like a boss that picks on you or continually getting the same type of relationship with a spouse there's aren't there's underlying trauma issues that need to be resolved so you can break those disturbing patterns is that what you're saying. 

 Eleonore | 11:34
Absolutely. And I see so many women that come, you know, and they've transitioned. And Moved on, if you like, from a relationship that was physically violent and they're in somebody that's a lot more loving, but they're still controlling and with narcissists. That's not going there with narcissists. So they just moved to a different type of controlling relationship so that you really do need to change those patterns. And that's so difficult. And one of the reasons why we lead to disease is that I usually talk. Through with my clients about the neuroscience and back in the 70s because I really like science and even though I did the metaphysical stuff I actually like science and when you talk about crystals you know and you get that's stuff well the reality is they use you know lasers and crystals in healing these days they you know I still get poo-pooed for colour therapy and I go but You use blue light therapy on jaundiced babies, you use ultraviolet light to sterilize things, you know, where's the what's going on here? And so, there's a real disconnect in that science does use crystal therapies. They do use light and cold therapy in their healing as well. But what we do know is that the neuroscience field is just really exploding and has been for quite a while. But back in, I think, the 70s, there was Professor Candice Peart, who was one of the first movers and shakers in the neuroscience world. And she found these neuropeptides. And it's now well known that whenever you have a thought or a feeling, you create the neuropeptide. And it's either a happy endorphin type or a stress type. Chemical. So most people would know that if you're feeling stressed, you're feeling tight and anxious. And they've actually shown at the scientific level that what happens is when you're stressed, your system contracts, your cells contract, the DNA contracts, which means the DNA can't do all of its metabolic functions. It can't clean itself. It can't heal. So over time, if you're continuously living in a stressed-out environment, you're Guess what? You know, you've sealed it. Can't do what they need to do. So you actually do need to know how to change your state of from a continuously stressed state into and giving it a break so that I can actually, you know, so you can have a good night's sleep and actually do what we call rest and repair, which primarily happens while you're asleep. So, I'm not sure if I answered your question, but, yeah, it's the neuroscience and the chemicals that you create lead to your health. Physical manifestation of illness. 

 Sharlene | 14:20
I love it. You've just given us a whole bunch more love having conversations with you. 

 Eleonore | 14:22
Layers.

 Sharlene | 14:26
They are so rich. Okay. For our listeners today, can we give them a really quick example of what they can do just to have a shift? 

 Eleonore | 14:35
Absolutely. So if what I ask your listeners to do is just for really quickly, I won't leave you there is just to think of something that really annoys you or get you know, whatever. 
 So just think about that. And then just notice how that contracts you and, you know, and where it is in your body. Okay. And you can feel it. Somewhere. Okay, right now, just look away, have a look at your ceiling and say, what colours the ceiling and whatever. Okay, just disconnect from that. We don't like to live in a stress state. But you get a sense of when you were thinking about how your body changes, because you do, you change the physiology of your body with the chemicals that you create. So now what I want you to do is think about What do you love most? What opens you, softens you? There's normally a person, a place or a pet, something. So what opens you, what softens you? And you can feel yourself. Soften. Beautiful. Do you feel a difference? 

 Sharlene | 15:30
Yes, I do. Beautiful. 

 Eleonore | 15:32
I can feel it yeah. 

 Sharlene | 15:33
In my breathing as well as my thought process and my physical body. 

 Eleonore | 15:38
So your whole physiology changed because you just whitewashed yourself with a whole set of feel-good organs. Endorphins, happy hormones, I call them. So what happens is because the cells are relaxing, the DNA is relaxing, you're quite different, your body's in a totally different state. And the reason I like to show that to my clients or get my clients to do that is that they can, I say to them, if you have to go into a meeting or you're confronted with person who wants to attack you emotionally or mentally or that you're intimidated by, I said, you need one or two of these things in the back of your mind about what opens you, softens you, so that you can change your state and have a different set of chemicals rather than stress hormones flooding through your body when you're looking to interact with those particular people and in those situations. Because What I'm going to get you to do now is I want you to think about ‘what do you love most’ scenario that you had. And now while you're thinking about that, think about that other situation. It's not as intense, is it? It's not Exactly. 

 Sharlene | 16:48
As intense. It's like, no. It's okay. I'm happy. 

 Eleonore | 16:54
The most important part of that is now that you can get on with your day. If you have to interact with people and do things, you're doing it from a more empowered position and perspective, you're not going to go all over the place because you're in stress hormones, because stress hormones will shut down your ability for your prefrontal cortex for you to think straight and whatever. So you want to flood yourself with those ideas. Feel good. Neuropeptides so that your system is open and functioning and that you can use your prefrontal cortex to think and respond. And I'm telling you, your response from when you're in a happy, a good place, as opposed to when you're in a negative state is totally different. I love it. 

 Sharlene | 17:36
Eleanor. Okay, so I'm 30-years-old, an alcoholic, and now almost 10 years sober. 
 So how can this help somebody who... You know, who has got an addiction, any type of addiction. How can we use the things that you talk about to help us if we're coming from that space of addiction? 

 Eleonore | 17:59
I'd be looking at, so where did the addiction start from? How old were you? What was going on in your life at the time? And look at those sorts of things because... It's hard to spend your life... Your addiction. You actually need to be in a place where you're just saying, Sophie, addiction was alcohol or for much of us Cubs. It's true. It's just how do you change it so that's no longer... An issue. There's lots of, you know, I've done EFT, which is the tapping thing as well. And that's, yeah, and I, yeah, I love tapping too. It's fantastic because tapping really does. And again, I like the science. So I'm there, well, how does this work? So I went off to find out the science and there's some really good reasons why tapping works because when you're tapping, let's say on a meridian, the meridians are, they all, connect up through different parts of the brain but in particular what you're doing when you're tapping is you're tapping on a meridian and creating a delta wave so that's a calming relaxing wave if you know anything about brainwave states so that brainwave state goes up into the best thing about tapping is that you focus on the real issue. You know, I am an alcoholic, or I am angry or I am whatever. And as you're doing this, it creates those neurochemicals to soften and relax, especially in the amygdala, which is the fight and flight danger there. And it's like if you're focused on what the issue is, the negative issue while you're tapping, And it actually releases the amygdala, which has got all of these programs, which is where some of these unconscious programs lie, are in the amygdala and the amygdala keeps those unresolved. Programming there, when you're tapping, it just goes, I'm not in danger. And it just releases it, just drops them. I do. So that's one of the beautiful things about EFT is that Once you find out what the real issue is and focus on it, you can just go on. No, they'll stick on. 

 Sharlene | 20:11
I love it. So flying is not my favourite thing to do on the planet. Yes, and as a professional speaker. Get to fly a lot. So I still find myself tapping when I fly. 

 Eleonore | 20:24
Which is really good. 

 Sharlene | 20:25
Fantastic, because it's a therapy I can do for myself. I don't look strange doing it. No one's ever really looked at me weird. And it just is, it's in my bubble and it just makes me feel good. And I just, I can have a more empowered experience when. 

 Eleonore | 20:39
I'm traveling. Absolutely. And there's lots of people that don't like flying and it's different for everyone. Again, The reason that you might be not comfortable with flying could be different from somebody else's. You know, I've got somebody that I worked with who had a flying problem and we did, again, some tapping and things like that. And it lasted for a little while, but it didn't last and take. But she, even though I invited her to come and do some unconscious stuff, she didn't do that. And the reality is that this person was somebody that was like to... Control she was a real control freak you know so you know that's tough if you're up in a this little you know metal thing 30 000 or whatever it is 10 000 feet up that's pretty hard you know you have to let go of control so people who are really like to be in control have real difficulty can have difficulty with flying so yeah every case is unique and different as to what is the underlying motive and whatever. And that's why I do such a comprehensive history of people's ground, because you need to find out. What is it? 

 Sharlene | 21:46
I'm a recovered perfectionist. I'm a recovered alcoholic. I'm a recovered people pleaser. I'm a recovered control freak. Like the list of my recovery is huge. I love it. And from my heart to your heart, Eleanor, it definitely has been the metaphysics of it all. 
 So understand why I got to where I was. And that wasn't enough. I needed to use quantum physics. I needed to use other therapies to have that energetic shift to be the person that I am now, so it works on every level I love it now tell me more about the six week this the six-hour program the six-week program. 

 Eleonore | 22:26
Okay. I have a six-hour program that I do and it's actually like 10 hours but there's six contact hours that I have with my clients. So and I have to have a conversation first to find out whether or not, you know, we're suitable to work together. Some people, you know, don't want to do certain things and that's okay. So what that involves is homework. There's a fair amount of personal history that I need to have back and then I plan afterwards. The session, but the sessions basically take the same sort of set of rules in the first session. We just have a look at what the unconscious core beliefs are. And people are always shocked about what they believe when we do. Testing on what your unconscious core beliefs are because that's what's actually running your life you always run on your unconscious beliefs so we have a look at what they are and actually start the process of releasing and changing those so that they're not holding you back that's what's actually stopping you and blocking you it's what your unconscious core beliefs are So we look at those, start the process of getting rid of those. And I introduce you through imagery or hypnosis, your authentic, true self, that you that was in place before all of the programming from your parents, this life process. Past lives, previous lives, all of those sorts of things. The authentic you without all of the baggage and the programming and beliefs that you've picked up. In this lifetime or and that you've carried on from previous lifetimes. And that's when people drag in and float out. When you get a chance to meet your authentic, real self, that just changes your whole energy. Then when people come back, and that's a two-hour session, when people come back for their second two-hour session, we make sure that they're really connected to that authentic, real self. Who they are and then we actually go through the process of having a look at the core traumas or distressing events that they've had in their life and sometimes it's just it is just around grief you know people that they've lost that they've never really come to terms within broken relationships and those sorts of things. But usually everyone's got some sort of trauma in there as well. So we deal with quite a few of the major impacts that have happened in their life and then we let them go home after those two-hour sessions. And I like to leave them for about a week. And then they come back and they're usually different people. And Because those underlying triggers. Have dissipated. So they're no longer in the amygdala in the system. So just programming and just pushing buttons. So and I asked them, so just notice what's triggered you or what you noticed this job in the last week or so. And they'll come back, and they'll say, yeah, this whatever. And I noticed this, but I noticed my mother's talking to me different. I noticed my husband says that I'm nicer, but I haven't changed. And they have an energetic level everybody changes so in the last session we'll mop up anything that needs to be popped up and we do something called create the future so if we've made all of these changes and taken all of these things away that no whatever we need to make sure that we've created the future and so we will go through a process of making sure that they're energetically as well as emotionally and psychologically set up to go into their future it's just great. 

 Sharlene | 26:21
It's fantastic. So this is energy, psychology and quantum healing, reclaiming life for anxiety, stress and trauma and abuse. Like this is everything that you need to move forward and unpack. And step into another version of what's possible for your life it's been a privilege and a pleasure to chat with you and clearly we can chat all day and it's got to be something about being over 50 we just love a cuppa and a bit today, if you're listening and you are a survivor of family and or domestic violence, reach out to Healing Through Love. 

 Eleonore | 26:48
Of a chat absolutely.

 Sharlene | 26:57
We have pamper days, think day spa on steroids, where you come along and our beautiful therapists hold that space for you for the day for free so that you can have everything from your hair done, your makeup done, your chakras aligned, quantum healing, Reiki, you name it, that's experienced. And for those of you who are listening, and you are a therapist, and if you've got a heart for change and you'd like to help us shift awareness on family and domestic violence reach out to healing through love because we are now global and have these beautiful pamper days all around the world. It's been a privilege to hold the space with you today and I look forward to having another conversation with you soon. It's a goodbye from me and a goodbye from Eleanor. 

 Eleonore | 27:40
Thank you Sharlene. Bye. 

 Voiceover | 27:46
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